| Location | Newcastle Upon Tyne |
| Age | 57 years |
| Cause of Death | Cancer |
| Date of Birth | 12/03/1948 |
| Date of Death | 17/12/2005 |
| Visitors | 873 since 29/06/2007 |
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Les(lie) Adams
March 12th 1948 to December 17th 2005,
Aged: 57
From: Newcastle Upon Tyne
Died 17th December 2005, in Newcastle Marie Curie Hospice - with Val, Tam and Dawn by his side.
Lived in Fenham for past 25 years
Husband, father, son, brother to many and uncle to many more.
Spent his childhood as the youngest in a house of (approx)15, in the Denton Burn area of Newcastle.
Worked as a Civil Servant with the DTI since the age of 16, working in London, Bournemouth and
Newcastle. He was at Stanegate House in the Bigg Market and then Wellbar House in Gallowgate, prior
to being medically retired.
Dad was a quiet, reserved and proud man, who never liked to show his true feelings in any situation.
He loved a drink with his pals, watching cricket, bowls, and also played darts when he was younger-
his second homes were Benwell Hill Cricket Club, and Denton Burn Bowls Green, Fluid, The Bacchus,
The Old George, The Strawberry and a few other haunts of which (as his daughter) I wasn't privvy
to!
If he could help anyone out - then he would do his utmost to do so. Often to the detriment of his
own family, home and self. It amused me somewhat upon his passing, to find his paperwork in an utter
mess, and having to wade through reams of the stuff to get things sorted, when he himself had helped
many bereaved to settle affairs. But, that was dad all over. I also found he had a pile of Alan
Titchmarsh's garden tips - despite his own garden being a tip!!!
Dad was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer in late 2002, after surviving 2 heart attacks in previous
years. He did suffer pain, and it did get him down a lot, but he never gave in to it, until the very
very end. He carried on enjoying his life, and doing things he hadn't done before, also mending
bonds with people, as he knew his time was limited. But, he did know when he had too much, and just
needed to be free of the pain. He always played the BAH HUMBUG about Christmas - and it seemes
timely this was the time he went. I last saw him as his 'perky' self on December 6th, and he
appeared to be quite well, but was having problems with the medication and pain relief. I had a
feeling deep in my heart it would be the last time I saw him as 'my dad'. I sat in the car in tears
with my mom, nanna and aunty as I left, as I just knew. I had the dreaded call 10 days later to get
to Newcastle as quick as I could.
I arrived at the hospice at 3.30pm, and couldnt believe how quickly he had deteriorated. I didnt
think he would know I was even there, but he knew, as the last thing he said, was to my partner. He
said "Thankyou for bringing her". We stayed with him, but all knew he was giving in. He had fought
enough and it wasnt fair to expect him to fight anymore. He died at 6.30pm with my mom, myself and
my partner at his side. He had cuts all over his upper lip from where he tried to shave himself, but
had been to weak to do it properly. But he wouldn't have had it any other way.
Unknown to most people, was the fact the cancer had spread throughout his body, into secondary
cancer of the lymph nodes and eventually his bones. Afterwards people stopped and asked mom how dad
was, not believing he had died. It was a shock he did go downhill so quickly, but it was him
deciding enough was enough, and he had the blessing of his mom, his wife and me to let go.
Dads funeral was a tremendous shock and comfort to both myself and my family. We never realised just
how popular he truly was until the hearse drove into the grounds of the crematorium. We saw this
great crowd of people at the side, and thought it was a multitude of 'other' peoples congregation.
That was until we started recognising the faces in the crowd. It was then we realised ALL of those
people were here for dad. We sat in the car for ages waiting for the great crowd to enter the
chapel. I don't recall just who was there, but I know he was represented from near and far. It still
to this day amazes me how many people came out on a dark, cold and dreary day before Christmas Eve -
and it amused us all in the car, that he would have been watching over us saying "I don't want the
fuss man!"
Les Adams - a good man - it just took me a while to realise it - but luckily it wasn't too late!!
********** RIP DAD - UNTIL I SEE YOU AGAIN **********
You can shed tears that he is gone,
Or you can smile because he lived,
You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back,
Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left.
Your heart can be empty because you can't see him
Or you can be full of the love that you shared,
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
You can remember him and only that he is gone
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on,
You can cry and close your mind be empty and turn your
back,
Or you can do what he would want: smile, open your eyes,
love and go on.
David Harkins
******************************
Please feel free to leave comments, stories, anything in order to keep dad's memory alive. No matter
how, where you knew him from.
The Dragonfly
Once, in a little pond, in the muddy water under the lily pads, there lived a little water beetle in a community of water beetles. They lived a simple and comfortable life in the pond with few disturbances and interruptions.
Once in a while, sadness would come to the community when one of their fellow beetles would climb the stem of a lily pad and would never be seen again. They knew when this happened; their friend was dead, gone forever.
Then, one day, one little water beetle felt an irresistible urge to climb up that stem. However, he was determined that he would not leave forever. He would come back and tell his friends what he had found at the top.
When he reached the top and climbed out of the water onto the surface of the lily pad, he was so tired, and the sun felt so warm, that he decided he must take a nap. As he slept, his body changed and when he woke up, he had turned into a beautiful blue-tailed dragonfly with broad wings and a slender body
designed for flying.
So, fly he did! And, as he soared he saw the beauty of a whole new world and a far superior way of life to what he had never known existed.
Then he remembered his beetle friends and how they were thinking by now he was dead. He wanted to go back to tell them, and explain to them that he was now more alive than he had ever been before. His life had been fulfilled rather than ended.
But, his new body would not go down into the water. He could not get back to tell his friends the good news. Then he understood that their time would come, when they, too, would know what he now knew. So, he raised his wings and flew off into his joyous new life!
Hey Dad. Just wanted to come spend some time on your page and be with you for a while. Still miss you, and often forget your no longer with us. I sometimes slip up with tales of "My dad does/has...." instead of "My dad did......". Cant believe the time that has passed since I last saw you. Hope your looking out for Tosca out there, give her a kiss from me. Love you, and miss you so much it makes my heart ache. Tam xxx
Happy Birthday Dad - today would have been the BIG 60!You always said you wouldn't be around to see it, and I always looked forward to teasing you about it. Now it's here I just wish you had been around to share it with us. I'm missing you more with each day that passes. Love you with all my heart. Tam xxxxx
missing you
we miss you so much,thinking of you.mam is still fighting and has never let the cancer get her down just had her 80th birthday and still going we all know where you got it from that stubborn streak,never giving up always positive,you are one special person,now a special angel watching over us,but as kaysi(your niece) says you are the brightest star shining in the night sky,love you loads and we will all be with you one day.x x x x x
I think that Les would have got along with my Dad, he would have had a few pints with him. It is nice to think they could meet up in heaven and become friends. My dad liked the countryside and to go for walks too, it would be nice to think thay could do that together.
X
In Memory Of Those Who Have Died Of Cancer
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thinking of you always
words can't describe how special you are,everytime i look at mam i see you,i think how determined you where,just as she is,as tam says you would never tell anyone how you truly felt until the end.you still live on in our hearts and always will,we will never forget you and will catch up with you one day,you are one of the most precious people i had the pleasure of knowing thank you for being in my life,love you forever your sister rosey xxx
we weren't very close but we rang each other now and again to see how each other was, but the thing I will always remember is when I turned 16 I found out you were my big brother, which I can tell you was a bit of a shock but you were a fab big brother to have, I'm pleased I found out when I did cause I got to know you a bit better. You never complained about being ill (just like your mam) you just got on with it, whenever I asked how you were you said you were ok, even when you were in hospital & I came to visit.
I also remember going to gran's in denton burn and you would be there, getting ready to go out for a drink (I think it was before you married Val) the hair all slicked back & aftershave on, looking very dapper but you always looked good when you went out, I remember you always wore a tie, & you walked everywhere, I remember you visiting mam in the freeman hospital & it was raining really bad & I said I would drop you off at home, you said it was out of my way (cause you didn't want to put me out, typical Les). It was a big shock when you went, I still can't get over how many people were at your funeral (you would have hated it, cause you didn't like a big fuss), like Tam says you never wanted to grow too old, but like the saying goes God only takes the best & always the young ones.
Well you're a big miss & always will be, hope your sleeping peacefully. xx
I know we werent close when you were here, but now you are gone I realise how special you were, and how important you were in my life. I could never imagine just how much I would miss you each and every day of my life.
I miss your advice which I could really do with right now, and which I thought would be there forever.
I'm remembering things that I had forgotten about when you were here - things you DID do for me, and things we did together. We never spent very much time doing things just the two of us, but we did go for our Sunday walks, walking for miles and miles and miles just to watch some cricket team I never knew.
You always said you would never be a pensioner - how did you know?
I miss you - yesterday, today and tomorrow. But I carry you with me and hope your watching over me from time to time. xxx
WHAT A LOVELY TRIBUTE TO PAY TO YOUR DAD IM SURE YOU WERE CLOSER THAN YOU THINK HE,LL BE SO PROUD TO KNOW WHAT YOU'VE WRITTEN.REST IN PEACE LES XX
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